March... the third month of the year and as the snow is clearing and the sun's appearing so is my life flowering. As I was deeply earthed following my February mantra of living in the present, I caught a glimpse of two gorgeous eyes looking my way, belonging to quite a man I must say- and maybe it wasn't love at first sight, maybe this isn't your typical 'lovey-dovey' story, but whatever this is, wherever I am right now, is without a doubt called, a happy place.
And this lovely man has already popped the question! Yes he has... he has asked me, quite a number of times now, the question which all women dread to answer... "what are you thinking?"
It is quite elaborate the way a woman's mind works- what we think about has often no logical sense once vocalised. Most of the times it's an inner desire, a deep feeling, a dream, a thought which under no circumstance do we want our man to be familiar with , especially if this man is still wearing the price tag and the clothes that he came in.
It often depends on the level of comfort, trust and understanding between the two, but the determining factor is how much weight that thought carries. As much as we may sometimes confess the truth, we do tend to avoid the question by stating the obvious or more likely by uttering the word every man dreads... "nothing" followed by the most innocent of smiles.
And mr.man, please note, a woman's nothing may well mean more than anything.
There's no other option... we resort to the "nothing" card when we know our thoughts will be made fun of, argued against, rejected, confirmed or worse of all, will make him run for the hills.
So if you're a man who is reading this, know to never push a woman who says "nothing" to reveal, but be aware that something is going on and, honestly all you need is some intuition, attention to detail even, to find out for yourself. The smile that follows says a lot, a woman who looks you in the eyes and smiles means she's happy and might feel a lot more for you than she is ready to express. If a woman looks away and goes deeper in thought,then you know something is simply not right so work your words well (yes, think before you speak!!) to find out what it is.
There are a lot of things women want to say. It's finding the right time, right words, right man to say them to, until then we may opt for a smile, a kiss, a look or simply a 'nothing'.
So I raise my Margarita today, to absence of words... it may seem like nothing but it does mean a lot.
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